BY ALLYSON BROWN

ANCHOR LAUREN ZIMA

A “Sex and the City” actress says she was not -- in fact -- born this way. Cynthia Nixon is in a lesbian relationship, and tells the New York Times her sexuality is entirely her choice.

"For me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me."

The interview has gotten major criticism from the LGBT community about her “choice” words. The writer says sexuality is not a choice.

Except of course, it's not. She's using incredibly sloppy language, and thinking, and in so doing did some real damage to our fight for civil rights.

Nixon’s comments are made more complicated by the fact that, before her current relationship, she was married to a man for several years. A writer for Slate magazine says we need to hear her out.

“Nixon’s rejection of this rhetoric evidences another way of thinking about sexuality, and it’s one that I think deserves a fair hearing.”

And celeb blogger Perez Hilton -- who is openly gay -- sees both sides.

“We cannot define her ‘gayness,’ but it wasn't a choice for us. We were BORN gay. And millions of gay people around the world feel the same way.”

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