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“I think it was both ways that the child, D, wasn’t connecting with us. And at the same time, while I was seeking help with a therapist, a social worker, while I was trying to establish a connection, and did some attachment therapy, I also realized that, on my part, there was a difference. I also had a hard time bonding with him.” (MSNBC)
That was Anita Tedaldi, a woman who returned an adopted South American child because of bonding issues. Media sources question if it’s the right thing to do. We bring you perspectives from MSNBC, The National Ledger, The Young Turks, Beliefnet and ParentDish.
An expert from an adoption institute tells MSNBC that he hopes people would not get the wrong idea about adoption from this case.
“The one message we shouldn’t take away from this is that this is, you know, adoption is a rental where you try it out. It’s not. It’s permanent. It’s loving.”
A writer for The National Ledger condemns the move of this mother, who has five biological children.
“… do we now keep the receipt for adoptions and what exactly is the return policy on kids? In all seriousness, should this woman even be allowed to adopt?”
But a reporter for The Young Turks says this move might be better for the child.
“It’s the worst possible environment for this child to grow up in. Because if she doesn’t feel the same connection with this child as she does with her five other daughters, her five other biological daughters, that child is going to realize that, and he’s going to grow up, or he or she is going to grow up, with psychological issues.”
A contributor to Beliefnet says Tedaldi should not have adopted if she could not carry through with the adoption.
“Biological moms don't get to hand back their unsatisfactory children; why should adoptive ones? Then again, we make 'forever' vows about marriage too, and so many of us divorce... but in that case, one of the parties isn't a helpless minor we've agreed to parent.”
A writer for ParentDish has many questions about the case.
“Without giving us particulars, we're left to wonder what went on in that house for a year-and-a-half? Was Baby D not a hugger? Did he not smile? What does it mean exactly that an infant is not bonding with his mother?”
So what do you think? Is it right for parents to return adopted children?
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